ironwoman359: blazinaces:hamburgergod:demisexualdenmother:demancipation:The differences unde
ironwoman359: blazinaces: hamburgergod: demisexualdenmother: demancipation: The differences under the ace umbrella I’ve reblogged this like 12 times but it will always be relevant This analogy is good, and even easier to understand once you think of this “urge” as being hungry. Asexuals are never hungry. Demisexuals aren’t usually hungry, except sometimes they walk by a donut shop they’ve become familiar with over time and there’s a chance that they find themselves hungry. Grey-asexuals sometimes get hungry, sometimes not. Some aren’t sure whether they fall under the ace umbrella or where on the spectrum they’re on, because they think they might’ve felt hunger before but they’re not really sure if it was really hunger or if their stomach was just upset or what, so they’re still figuring things out. None of them choose to not be hungry. Sex-repulsed aces don’t like/hate donuts for different and valid reasons. Sex-indifferent aces don’t mind donuts. Some will maybe eat some, but most times they probably wouldn’t go out of their way to go look for donuts to eat. Sex-positive aces like donuts. They’re not hungry when they eat donuts and they’re not eating donuts to stop being hungry, but they like eating donuts, so they do. I really like how OP mentions that celibacy is the same as going on a diet, because that really shows how different asexuality is compared to celibacy. Generally speaking, celibate people will still go hungry but they choose to not eat. With asexuals, we don’t get hungry, period. I think of sexual attraction more as appetite, and sex drive being like hunger. So for aces with a sex drive it’s like you might be hungry but nothing ever looks good. This is why me being ace is not about “how you don’t fuck.” Being ace is about not being hungry in the first place. -- source link