It’s amazing how calm encasement makes me. Power exchange is important. No top wants a b
It’s amazing how calm encasement makes me. Power exchange is important. No top wants a bottom that just lays there like a dead fish. When I’m being tied up by a guy I try to communicate with my body. I struggle, I writhe, and I try let him know when things feel good or react when he prods. It is a dance of giving and receiving. But a good top understands what downtime means and uses it effectively. Once you are completely restrained and securely blindfolded (preferably hooded) there is nothing more wonderful than to have the top just step away for periods of time. Time is funny when you are floating, encased in bondage. Sometimes long time periods seem short, and other times a few minutes seem to stretch into hours. Maybe he’s been gone for fifteen minutes, but to you it feels like it has been an hour…then he returns, slowly caressing your muscles through the layers of bondage. Maybe he speaks some quiet and reassuring words. Maybe he slowly takes each belt and tightens it a notch. Maybe he finds some other way to position you, or to restrain further. Maybe he returns to provoke, tickle, poke, or clamp and twist your nips. Maybe it is to stroke your cock, to edge you slowly, to get you hard and dripping only to step away again, for five minutes, half an hour, or two hours…The length of time is an important part of the dance. When he steps away you can react with intense struggling, out of a desire for continued attention. No, don’t go away…stroke me more, I want to get off. Come back! Or you can sink back into bondage bliss, out of relief or necessity. At last, the tickling/edging/poking have stopped!There is also the eventual reaction that comes with being left to deal with the bondage for long periods of time. No matter how good it feels or how calm you are, eventually boredom will set in and you will long for something, anything, to happen. You might moan out and begin to struggle as if to say, “Hey, I’m ready for more!” And a good top knows how sometimes it is perfect to just ignore those pleas. To let you struggle through your boredom alone. To just sit and watch as you truly and fully experience total helplessness. And if you are lucky, to see yourself lose to the bondage, to wait long enough to see you break. And then to swoop in at exactly the right time, and to do exactly the right thing. To say the right words, or to touch the right way, or to take that defeated, broken, bound and controlled despair and turn it into the most incredible orgasm…It’s a dance, and if you do it right, god it’s good. -- source link
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