seatunt:tockthewatchdog:not to single you out here for reblogging this Cassie cuz I see stuff like t
seatunt:tockthewatchdog:not to single you out here for reblogging this Cassie cuz I see stuff like this on my dash all the time, but you guys know this only happens because women aren’t given power over our own sexuality and actual lesbianism or sexuality between women is seen as not actually real and this is why women are given no shit over this behavior, because it’s all seen as perfectly innocent? This is where we get shit like those ridiculous “gal pal” headlines. and of course as soon as a woman is actually a lesbian or same gender attracted and isn’t doing it performatively so men can jack off to it, or doesn’t met standards for conventional attractiveness she’s deviant and gross. so this double standard doesn’t exactly let women off easy. it’s just another way of dismissing us and saying we can’t act as sexual beings, only sexual objectsand it’s upsetting to me that this implies lesbians are never victims of straight women’s homophobia/lesbophobia. straight girls don’t get to pat themselves on the back or absolve themselves of homophobia just because female homophobia looks different than male homophobia! straight women perform heterosexuality in a myriad of ways that leaves lesbians out, belittles us, offends us, and oppresses us. straight women get to do this cutesy twee friendship shit precisely because they are straight. as a lesbian teenager, i was made to feel deviant and disgusting if i took my shirt off at a sleepover in front of other girls, if i called another girl pretty, if i brought a girl to prom instead of a guy. if i snuggled on the couch with my straight best friends i’d be accused of trying to hit on them. but straight girls can do these things because at the end of the day we all realize that what they’re doing is a “joke”—they don’t really date other women, they aren’t really attracted to other women. that’s where their heterosexuality gives them the male equivalent of a “no homo”. straight femininity looks different than straight masculinity, but that doesn’t mean it’s better for lesbians. two straight girls jokingly holding hands and playing footsie doesn’t make me feel any safer holding my girlfriend’s hand when i walk down the street.or, put it this way. for every pair of straight girls who are jokingly “married” on facebook, there’s a lesbian couple who can’t legally get married in this country—being pretend married turns their real pain into a joke whether you realize it or not. -- source link