beggingforpermission: thedeviantthingsilike:Is this your place? followme4ever:PLACE This is wher
beggingforpermission: thedeviantthingsilike: Is this your place? followme4ever: PLACE This is where you belong and what you need, my guidance, following my commands, showing respect, offering your body and soul to me…..this is your place and posture…. One of the things that has recently come to my attention is that I take a larger amount of social cues from the relative positioning of bodies, especially in a D/s context. For example, New Partner and I were having a discussion about something the other night. He was unhappy with something I had done and wanted me to do something different next time. We had the conversation on the couch, facing each other, heads at the same height. This was very confusing for me. I couldn’t tell how he wanted me to respond, what headspace he wanted me to be in. At first, I thought this had to be a Serious Discussion, because why else would he be having this conversation with me as if I were his equal? I was really frightened by it. I didn’t know my place, since my “place” wasn’t being offered to me. I knew I was out of favor with him, but I didn’t know *how* out of favor I was. Maybe he was just so upset with me that I didn’t deserve to be at his feet? It turned out that he didn’t realize how much our physical relative positions meant in how I interpreted what was going on. Non-verbal cues are so important and in D/s, sometimes there are additional cues to learn beyond the ones we’ve all learned growing up. We agreed afterward that next time he needs to have that kind of discussion with me that he’ll have me at his feet - where I belong - so that there’s no confusion. Even when I’m in disfavor, being in my place makes me feel safe and secure which allows me to be open emotionally and vulnerable. Which is what we both want when we are having a discussion like that. Relative body positioning happens to be an extremely effective tool for me. I’m very lucky that New Partner understood so easily why and how. -- source link