Don’t normally post text stuff, but this is fairly spot on. I would add that if you are be
Don’t normally post text stuff, but this is fairly spot on. I would add that if you are being too rough, they will always tell you, and you can attenuate back from where you started. If you’ve been asked to treat your little girl very roughly, you go right to the edge, immediately. Give her what she asked for, and if it’s too much, she’ll let you know. Think about it on “male-terms” as akin to how you like a blowjob. If you have to keep telling the girl during the act what to do, and she still has trouble with it, it becomes quite difficult, and kinda bums out what should be an incredible experience for you. So, if you start saying “is that too rough?” or not going right to where they want it, you can see how they’d get frustrated and eventually tired of you. Generally, though, when I’ve been asked to be rough, and give it, I have never been asked to tone it down much. I go right to the throat, to the face, fingers down the throat and up the cunt, exercising punishment always safely, but damn fucking hard. Each woman is different, however. Some will not give explicit spoken cues. Sometimes you do read body language, but this can be deceiving, as many have wanted it really rough and for it to hurt, and if you immediately assume that the faces and sounds of pain they make are bad, and back off, you’re doing exactly what they don’t want, so I generally do not react to these cues. However, you do need to be conscious of this, especially if there is a power-dynamic going on where she is afraid of upsetting you and thus endures something that truly is not pleasurable for her. This is very different from aspects of BDSM in which she’s going to be put into uncomfortable and painful positions, as these are things that the slut has expressly asked for. What I’m talking about is when you are doing more vanilla rough sex play, and you are literally going too hard with her, and she’s afraid to say anything, possibly because you are an asshole, in which, you’re likely not going to pay attention to this, anyway. But, at least it’s been said and you know, fuckface. While it might not be the sexiest thing in the world for some, these kind of things are best dealt with a pre-fucking, pre-turned-on quick conversation. Is there anywhere off limits on the body? Words, names, acts that are a no go. Spoken and gagged safe words and an understanding that you are going to get exactly what you’ve asked for? Really hard slaps to the face, tits, ass, cunt, elsewhere? Spitting in your face and mouth? Belts and collars and hands around your neck, choking you to the point where you black out and are brought back with even harder slaps? Or just light, medium, hard choking without passing out? Hair pulling to the point where it begins to make you wince and cry? Lifting you up by your neck, finger-fucking your cunt and asshole like I’m repeatedly doing small quick punches, dragging you by your hair across the room, throwing you around, on the bed, pushing you over, stepping on your head while I pound your ass, pulling your mouth open, jamming my cock down your throat until you not only gag, but vomit? These are all entry-level BDSM questions, and when you get to the point of more heavy shit, you can also ask the same kind of questions. Especially when you get into some really rough shit, like rape-play, gangbangs, and pain delivery to the point of crying, these things have to be front-loaded before you begin, especially if this is a woman you care about and are in a relationship with. When she asks for these kinds of rough play, they have to be discussed up front. In the past, I had a few partners where we did not have this discussion because she did not want it, and then things got overwhelming for her, so now, it’s a total necessity, and I don’t care if part of your kink is me just playing a rape out without any discussion from you about what is too far or too much. Either that girl has no fucking clue what she’s asking for, or she has some serious psychopathological issues that you will not be helping by performing such an act without any front- or back-end loading. It’s really easy to have these discussions up front and be quick about it, even in the case of girls who claim they don’t wanna talk about it, because if you know what the possibilities are, you can rapid-fire them off to her. If you are not great at talking to girls about any subject, then write out every conceivable question you might have, practice it beforehand, and then run through it before you start playing. I’ve been friends with women for a long time, and have an incredibly miniscule filter on what I won’t say to anyone, so running through a list that takes about 30 seconds to two minutes of discussion beforehand doesn’t ruin the vibe in the slightest and it never makes me nervous or uncomfortable, which is also half the battle. It actually highly turns them on, because it shows that I know what the hell I’m doing and can run through the list quite fast so it becomes clear I’ll be able to create spontaneously, and as you go through each one, with them answering “yes, no, or maybe” for each, you’ll see their eyes start to widen, and a little devious smile begin to form as the rapid fire questions cum at them. At that point, they know they’re gonna get exactly what they’ve always wanted, and it does tend to open them up even more than they previously thought. PS - “maybes” are usually saved until after you make them cum for the first time during that session, depending on how they answered with that maybe. I like to wait until they’re about to cum for the second time for unleashing one or two of their “maybes” on them. Never fails. If they seem extremely reticent with a maybe, it’s okay to wait until a session or two later to pull it out of the toolbag. -- source link