iamdrdominant: A Day in the Life of a Long-distance D/s Couple: Where is My Daily Photo?Maintaining
iamdrdominant: A Day in the Life of a Long-distance D/s Couple: Where is My Daily Photo?Maintaining structure and discipline in a long distance D/s relationship is not easy. For @exasperatingbutnot (ebn) and I, the key is not to over think it, not to over structure it, and not to over do it. We aim for just enough of My presence in her daily schedule to remind her that she is accountable to Me. Admittedly, sometimes we slip. I fall off the wagon and things get a little lackadaisical - but only for a few days at most before I realize we are losing structure. When this occurs, I have to look in the mirror, admit my failings, put on My big boy pants and climb back in the saddle. Once back in the saddle, I then have to bring ebn back to submissive center. The interaction below is one of these times.To set the stage, I require ebn to send a photo to Me every weekday. I have never set a time requirement to allow her some flexibility to accommodate her day but she usually sends it to Me in the morning. I give her the weekends off - everyone needs a break now and then. It had been a week since she last sent Me a daily photo. I got busy with life. she got busy with life. Sh*t happens. I get it. But once I recognized we had slipped from this ritual, it was time to course correct. There is quite a bit going on here. First, she admits to not thinking about sending Me a photo every day. I am at a crossroad. I can admonish her behavior or I can acknowledge it and move on. I chose the latter. Why? It’s simple. Because I did not think about it every day either. Yes, she is My submissive, but I do not hold her to any higher standard of accountability than I hold myself. To do so would be hypocritical. Acknowledge and move on. Check!Second, she says she does not like her photograph. I get it. I have met few women in My five decades of life who were completely satisfied with self. Again, another crossroad. I can go on and on and on about how beautiful I think she is to help with her self-esteem, or I can simply issue correction through my lens and move on. I chose the latter. Why? Because this was a time for resetting expectations, and not adoration. Correction issued. Check!Third, she says she does not understand why I need a daily photo. Yet again, another crossroad. I could give her the “I Am Almighty Dominus” response of, “Because I said so” or I could provide a more meaningful and thoughtful response. I chose the latter (albeit a terse one), “Because it helps Me”. Check! ebn did not acknowledge My directive to send Me a photo. There was no response whatsoever to My ending message of, “… and everyday from here on after!”I think to Myself…she can be so exasperating sometimes!Of course, this brings Me to another crossroad. I can ask for acknowledgement and force a response or I could just let things play out. I chose the latter. My rationale was if she respects Me as her Dominant, she will comply.The morning proceeds and no acknowledgement and no photo.I think to Myself… It is still morning. There is a lot of daylight left. There is no time requirement. It’s OK. Just relax kiddo…LunchtimeNo acknowledgement and no photo…. Hmm?Afternoon downtimeStill no acknowledgement… and no photo. OK???!!! What’s going on here? Am I going to have to remind her? There is still a few hours left in the day. Let it ride, IADD. Let it ride…I continue on with the rest of My day and then it happens at 3:18pm with no hint and no warning. Just compliance! The photo in question comes in and with it confirmation that our long distance D/s dynamic remains in tact.ladies and Gentlemen, Boys and girls, there is a lesson to be learned here. As a Dominant, always exercise personal control. In this case, I remained calm and in control of my emotions. I was patient with ebn and did not act prematurely. I know her well; she is rather cerebral and often needs time to process what is happening around her. By not overreacting to the situation and allowing her this time, what could have turned into Mount Everest was little more than a speed bump. Life continued as normal. -IADD (© January 24, 2018) Devotional Training. -- source link