geekyhobbies:drejofvalenwood:kendallhaleart:This came to me after living in a town for 5 years where
geekyhobbies:drejofvalenwood:kendallhaleart:This came to me after living in a town for 5 years where if you aren’t married and having kids, everyone hates you.I’M CACKLING Yeah as a woman I can confirm this is exactly how it is(Though I actually got way more shit for not having kids nor wanting them by older co workers and other older aquaintances (Mostly women but also some older men). Which is fucking weird because they dont have a horse in that race….nothing to gain….but it makes sense when u think of how we women (especially past generations) are socialized to aspire to be mothers at all other costs….and we reinforce this mentality within each other like a police force, always investigating one another and trying to keep one another “in line”……The older male co workers/aquaintances operated within a similar frame work mentality but instead of policing my particularbehavior of childlessness, they always always always asked….“What does ur husband say?” As though my husband owns my uterus…..THE POINT IS HE DOESNT SAY ANYTHING BECAUSE ITS MY BODY AND I WOULDNT MARRY ANYONE WHO WOULD PUSH KIDS ONTO ME it was kinda a deal breaker so…my husband doesnt fucking say anything because my husband respects my autonomy)My own grandma never really cared for our family too much (long family drama). And my dad perpetually thinks of me as a child, even though I am 30, and if i got pregnant it’d be akin to me being a teen mom….My mom was the second biggest pressure on me to have babies, and UUUUUUGGGGGGGHHHHHH I fuvking hated the whole “u will change ur mind one day” bullshit whenever I protested…..fuck……She herself hated kids, and regretted having me and my brother, at least so young, but she assumed this is just what women do….we sacrifice our own happiness to procreate….So if I said I dont want kids, she’d call me selfish….because I refuse to give everything up Kids are cool….just not for me…..I wish ppl understood thisHonestly, millenials my age totally get ut, both guys and ladies….I have NEVER gotten shit for being childless or not wanting kids by millenials of my age. We fucking get it. -- source link