hidari-te:I had this pasted in my journal after I cut contact with my own abusive mother several yea
hidari-te:I had this pasted in my journal after I cut contact with my own abusive mother several years ago, because it was really accurate and eye-opening. I thought about how being treated this way contributed to shaping my unhealthy mental process:I have tolet it go.If I can’t,it still wasn’t that hurtful.Even if I am very hurt, that’s not a big deal. If it is abig deal, that’s my fault for making it that way. The otherperson didn’t mean to hurt me. But if theydid mean it, then I probably caused that.So I wrote a new, corrected mindset for myself:Shoving it under the rug isn’t healing. My pain is legitimate.My pain is important.The personwho hurt me holds accountability. Their intentdoesn’t absolve them of responsibility. I don’tdeserve to be mistreated. And because being raised by an awful person tends to warp one’s sense of what’s considered acceptable behavior…My actionshad consequences. I causedsomeone to feel pain.Otherpeople’s pain is valid and important.I amaccountable for my actions, including negligence.Ignorance isa reason, but never an excuse.Nobodydeserves my mistreatment. -- source link