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undergroundtreeassociation:iwillincendiotheheartoutofyou:undergroundtreeassociation:iwillincendiotheheartoutofyou:I feel like not many people know about aromanticism, so here is a short guide.What it means: Aromanticism refers to the inability to feel romantic attraction towards others. Someone who does not feel romantic attraction to others is called an ‘aromantic’. ‘Aro’ is a popular abbreviation.What it doesn’t mean: Asexual. Many people think that aromantics are automatically asexual. This is not necessarily the case. Aromantics can still feel sexual attraction to others, and be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual etc. the same as anyone else.So you’re just heartless, then? NO. This is a common misconception. Aromantics are just as capable of love as anyone else, they just don’t feel ROMANTIC love. They are in fact often capable of stronger platonic bonds than most people. Some aromantics even have platonic life partners, and they are capable of loving one another just as much as spouses do. There’s just no romance involved.So you’ve never had a crush? Correct, though some aromantics do experiences squishes - the desire to be in a platonic relationship, i.e. friends, with someone.They can’t ever have real sex though, right? Wrong. A lot of people imply that sex isn’t ‘real’ unless the people involved are in love, which is ridiculous. Furthermore, it is very possible to love someone a great deal without being in love with them, in the romantic sense.Wow, that sounds good - no more relationship stress! I think i’ll become aromantic. You can’t. Aromanticism is not a choice. It’s as inbuilt as any other form of romanticism or sexuality. You can choose to abstain from relationships, but you cannot choose to be aromantic.Someone will come along and change your mind. You’ll grow out of it. Would you say that to a gay person? I certainly hope not, because that would be awfully homophobic. Again, I say: aromanticism is not a choice.Don’t you want children, then? Many aromantics (though not myself) want children. Some, who are not asexual, will have them with platonic life partners. Others will adopt. The two are not interconnected.How do I know if I’m aromantic? Romanticism and sexuality are very personal, and there’s no way of knowing for sure. I’ve never felt romantic attraction towards anyone or had any desire for a romantic relationship, so it’s always been clear to me, but for others, it’s more complicated. It’s something that you have to figure out for yourself.This Is all so much bullshit I’m sorryFuck off. Seriously.Even if you don’t believe it (which is ridiculous, because I and many other people can attest to the truth in it), how does it affect you? How does the fact that I do not experience romantic attraction affect you in any way?Do you know what you’re doing saying that? This is what you’re contributing to.If you don’t believe it, scroll past.But why do you think you have the right to contribute to the bigotry towards people of my orientation who have done absolutely nothing against you?It’s a shame that ‘I’m sorry’ was blatantly sarcastic, because yeah, you should be sorry.No its literally just people trying to throw labels onto everything like “platonic life partner” what are you just too “edgy” and “strange” for love? Its a spouse. And you have kids with them. The only way a human being could “not feel love” is if they were autistic. So please, keep trying to seperate your ties with society so you can be as unique as possible and bitch for attention about people “shaming” you all the time. Why does everything have to be so specific?iwillincendiotheheartoutofyou did an excellent job of saying why your attitude towards aromanticism is wrong, but I’m going to add something. Please don’t say people with autism are incapable of love. That’s horribly wrong and insensitive, all the autistic people I know are very loving and more than able to care about other people. There’s something called alexithymia that many people with autism have, which simply means they find it hard to express and word their emotions, but it certainly doesn’t mean they’re incapable of feeling them. This is a really hurtful point of view, and it’s very damaging to autistic people. Please be more thoughtful with your phrasing next time! -- source link