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a-terf:greenwire:appropriately-inappropriate:twoxliberation:appropriately-inappropriate:kittiesatemypronouns:Jesus Christ!Financial abuse. I hope she leaves and sues him for everything. this is why i will always have my own accounts, even if i do get married, especially if i marry a man.i really wish more women would realize that this is a huge red flag. “i control all the money” i’m assuming this means all of her paychecks go into the account too, which means she has no access to her own money unless he gives her “permission” - permission to access money that she earned. even if he hadn’t tacked on the extra blatant misogyny at the end of his comment, his actions alone speak for his true feelings about women, including his wife. men who want to have full control and access to something as important as money, which is perhaps the only safety net that some people have if something goes wrong, are absolutely abusers and ticking time bombs just waiting to go off.$100. he flipped his shit and “revoked her privileges” over one hundred fucking dollars. so not only an abuser, but also a cheap ass stingy abuser at that. Right?! Maybe it’s a gay lady thing, or maybe it’s just my naturally suspicious nature, but the day I became legal to work I went and got myself a separate and independent bank account and did direct deposit and I watched my pennies like a hawk. Sixteen and I was sitting down with a financial advisor in order to maximize the benefits and minimize risk. . When I was purchasing my home not a month ago, I gave my stepfather power of attorney to make the deposit as I’d be out of the country. In that notarized legal document, I specified the: -dollar amount,-purchase he could apply said dollar amount before,-which lots (in sequential order) that he could apply said dollar amount towards, -which dates the power of attorney would be valid for, starting at 12pm EST on X date and lasting until 12am EST on Y date and expiring immediately after said stated time. And all that, simply to protect my money from a man I know and love and have absolute faith in. This woman needs to get the fuck out of that situation. I’ve gotten so much shit for saying that women need separate bank accounts in a marriage, but honestly, this is why. It’s pathetic that this man wants to leave his wife with nothing. It’s pathetic that if he did share his finances equally, people would consider that his generosity, and not him giving his wife what she is owed. Hope this fucking piece of shit dies and his wife gets a bunch of money -- source link