love-and-bdsm:I get asked a LOT how I punish my subs, and there have been a lot of things that bothe
love-and-bdsm:I get asked a LOT how I punish my subs, and there have been a lot of things that bother me about the way people seem to think about punishment. 1.) I hate when submissives who aren’t mine are rude to me and then say I need to punished and then tell me what I can do to them. Umm, no, I’m not your Mistress. Your punishment for being rude to me is me blocking you. 2.) I dislike the notion that punishment is something a sub should want. At least for me, punishment means you have hurt or disappointed me. I’m not going to punish you with an activity you enjoy. You’re not going to learn anything from that. You are going to hate it. 3.) If you like pain play, discipline, humiliation, or whatever, that’s great! We can do those things without you misbehaving. We can even roleplay that it’s punishment without having to cause damage to our relationship. Ask for it. 4.) No, being a dominant does NOT mean I automatically love punishing subs and watching them suffer. I hate punishing subs. I’d much rather reward them for GOOD behavior. 5.) No, I am not going to tell you in detail how I would punish you for a vague hypothetical infraction. Punishments have endless possibilities and will always be based on the type and severity of the offense, extenuating circumstances, aggravating circumstances, and the likes and dislikes of the submissive. 6.) No, punishments aren’t “worse” when I’m angry. I don’t punish when I’m emotionally compromised. I remove myself from the situation, take time to cool down, and decide a punishment when I’m level headed. Anything less could easily be named abusive. 7.) Punishment is not cruel. It is not excessive. It is not for no reason. It does not “destroy” the submissive. It is NOT done without consent. That is abuse. Punishment is fair, it is fitting, it is deserved, it is consensual, and it should enable the submissive to grow and learn. Ms Kay’s note: This is a WONDERFUL break-down of what punishment is, what it isn’t, and how it should be approached. -- source link
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