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lynati: star-anise: oodlenoodleroodle: star-anise: jenroses: fieldbears: ladycanuck: mygaynessisinfinite: reversetimelord: imfemalewarrior: sapboy: this person married a branch of bananas This is actually dangerous and neglectful bad parenting. Babies cannot stop eating, so the risk of overeating and vomiting is much higher for them, even when closely monitored (when I was a baby even if my mom fed me for 10 minutes it was too much and I would vomit as a result). This baby will keep eating until they vomit, and she is on her back with a bottle in her mouth, so she can’t even vomit properly and will run a much higher risk of asphyxiating. If my spouse did this I would seriously reconsider the marriage. And I wouldn’t leave them alone with the baby or any babies after them (actually I wouldn’t have any more children with them unless it was adopting an older child that did not need help eating) until they were old enough to communicate their needs and had the ability to eat unassisted (so basically elementary school). Don’t do this. You are putting your child at risk. -FemaleWarrior “My husband is a horrible neglectful father putting our baby’s life at risk because he can’t be bothered to feed them for once, hahaha!” Things like this are genuinely terrifying damn straight ppl are scary Bottle feeding infants have no choice but to swallow to protect their airways. Bottles drip, sucking is a reflex. And they have no choice but to swallow the formula milk, and then there’s more. A newborn or young infant can be forced to drink far more than their tiny stomach can hold. Cue the puking. Never prop bottles. Pay attention to baby’s cues. Look up paced bottle feeding. Respect natural feeding rhythms. It’s why medical professionals now recommend paced feeding (to prevent over feeding, vomiting and in the case of combination feeding - breast refusal). http://www.peelregion.ca/parenting/feeding-baby/paced.asp Paced bottle feeding - parenting - Region of Peel I should note, generally breastfed babies have more control. They have to be latched and suckling to trigger the milk ejection reflex. In cases of oversupply ( yes this is a thing, I had it) babies will release the breast spluttering and choking and often clamp down to stop the flow (as painful as it sounds). Related risk: Leaving a bottle unattended in a baby’s mouth for long enough can give the infant ‘bottle mouth’ if they have even the beginnings of cut teeth. Do Not Do This. As a longtime parenting educator, can confirm, do not ever. Also, a lot of the health benefits of breastfeeding aren’t actually about the milk—they’re about the positive physical and emotional effects of skin-to-skin contact. Babies need physical touch, and lots of it, for their autonomic nervous system to release the hormones that allow them to grow and thrive. Being held by another human and soothed by the rhythm of their breath, heartbeat, and movement is essential to creating future emotional stability and mental health. It isn’t important to be The Mother or even the one who’s lactating to provide that kind of closeness—you just have to put in the work and hold the damn baby. Boys almost never get taught the basics of childcare the way girls do, and we think it’s adorable when men don’t know what they’re doing with their infant children. But it’s harmful to the babies, robs those men of positive relationships with their kids, and is preventable with education. (I’m AFAB and was never taught anything about babies either.) I mean, most people aren’t. We have a general cultural illiteracy about early childhood development. It’s incredibly rare to find, for example, jurisdictions where public schools offer courses in childcare the same way they might offer Spanish or Art. You’re just supposed to “pick it up” (usually by being a young woman in a family with babies and getting tasked with childcare, which is happening less and less these days). (And when schools say they’re teaching “what it’s like to be a parent” they’re usually not teaching useful parenting skills, just trying to scare kids into not having sex.) But for what routes there are, most boys are totally excluded–many girls begin babysitting strangers’ children to earn an extra income as young as ten, a practice which boys have typically been considered too dangerous to participate in. When public schools do teach classes about childcare, they’re generally aimed at teen moms, not all students in general. A lot of parent education and bonding programs are specifically aimed at “moms” and act like cats with boots on when dads show up. This is something I care about a lot because I care about preventing child abuse, and the no 1 way to do that is to educate parents about basic child care, like “It’s not good to just prop a baby up with a bottle all the time” or “Yes they WILL scream for no fucking reason for the first three months, learn to live with it” or “3-to-5-year-olds don’t lie to your face because they’re bad kids, they’re just learning how reality works”. These are the kind of things a lot of parents simply don’t know, because nobody tells them and trying to look for good parenting advice on your own today is like walking with pizza into a room that’s on fire. But men, especially, are put at a disadvantage when it comes to learning them. If you want to have kids, please make sure you and your partner(s) learn about having kids first, so you’re not trying to wade through figuring out what is bad advice and misinformation after your child is already here and benefitting (or not) from you knowing those things. -- source link