eros-addict: actofhubris:A Beautiful Mind I can only speak of the women I have been with and spoke
eros-addict: actofhubris: A Beautiful Mind I can only speak of the women I have been with and spoken to at depth… But, there is a common thread among you all. These women represent a bit of a spectrum of experience. But, all of you are strong women. Be it in business or education, whether it comes from physical stature or characteristic beauty, or more internal artistic and creative expressions of strength. All of you carry a weight to show your strength, responsibility, power, the “image” itself. As a result, you are busy people. With very busy minds. Minds that constantly throw challenges and critiques at you. Minds that constantly, cope with those internal drivers too, spending even more energy. But those “demons” drive you, successfully too. Your success reinforces your strength. Submission is a journey, so is Dominance. We are all trying to get ‘somewhere’. The women I have met are all looking for a place to drop the weight you carry, not permanently, but for a while, and often. Tear down all that pressure and posture from success. And in doing so, silence all that activity going on in your heads. Silence even the good activity like thinking of a good solution to a problem at work. You want all of that gone. You want a place to feel more than think. That different mindset, purely incidentally, has sexual benefits. When you let your walls that far down, you are at your most intimate. You are most you. That’s why the heart is never left behind. You leave your hearts behind in your strength. You return to your heart when things are much quieter on the inside. You are all looking for someone worthy of delivering you there. How you get there, and what you need, to do so… That’s the journey and brings in the trappings. And it is a different journey each time you try with a new partner. A good Dom only guides the submissive where she already wants to go, and needs help to get to. A good Dom bridges the gaps you are afraid to cross on your own. ~H “…the heart is never left behind…” It is rare… No, it is exceptional, to meet a man who can not only articulate his Dominant perspective without hyperbole or cliché, but one who is acutely aware of the submissive dynamic. Many of us operate on autopilot, we slay dragons daily, we deliver, smile, nod… we maintain, many times unaware or in denial about our deepest personal needs. Alone we’re the toughest critics, we find fault in minutia and we can spiral, become….. stuck. Emotionally, we run on fumes. Physically, we ache. In tandem, we raise the armor higher while the deepest needs crescendo. D/s is one of the most misinterpreted, misunderstood AND misreprented dynamics out there. At it’s most authentic, trust is paramount, doubt disappears and pleasure is shared. The journey is valued. Lead… follow… fulfill. The power exchange is equitable. Communication both verbal and in silence… is instinctive, reverent. And make no mistake… The heart is never left behind. ~for H -- source link