novac:legalizememes:sneakyfeets: I didn’t even read past the headline at first I was just nodding an
novac:legalizememes:sneakyfeets: I didn’t even read past the headline at first I was just nodding and ready to square up after reading this article i am even more ready to square upTHIS IS GROWTH People who object this are missing the point and or are doormats [caption start]A screenshot of an article from “thecut .com” titled “My Wife’s Enemies Are Now My Enemies, Too” with the subheading “No one tells you about the other in-laws you acquire when you get married.”[sneakyfeets addition][legalizememes addition; four screenshots of text]“Until about five years ago, I got along with basically everyone. Sometimes, I knew, people didn’t care for me, but my impeccable get-along instinct and crushing fear of confrontation prevented things from coming to a head very often. And if I didn’t like someone, I’d try to never let them know, because even if the sight of them made my stomach curdle, I still wanted them to like me. I’d attempt to wear them down with relentless kindness until one of us moved to another city of died. But all that changed when I met my wife, who taught me the fine art of having enemies.”“My wife’s enemies are now mine, and the rationale behind why doesn’t really matter. Reasons great and small both count, not equally but heavily. A sampling of these new enemies includes a friend of a friend who came to a party at our apartment and was moderately unfriendly, a man who said a sexist thing to my wife in a business setting, a dog who I’m told barked aggressively at our dog, a former colleague who isn’t a bad person but is just kind of a lot, several exes but not all of them, several friends’ exes (basically all of them), some gross former bosses.”“When these people (or the dog) come up in conversation, I have nothing kind to say about them. It’s an inversion of the popular advice: If I can’t say something mean, I say nothing at all. I do not publicly engage with or privately enjoy their work. I steer clear of them at parties and speak ill of them to mutual friends. I don’t do these things out of a patriarchal obligation to “protect” my wife. I do them out of a loving desire to support her. If she decides that someone is bad, then I trust her; they are bad. And it is my avowed duty to help her ruin them, just as it is my spousal responsibility to cheerlead her professional accomplishments or perform household chores.”“Swearing to hate my wife’s enemies has made me a better, more rounded person. Not only does it give me a benchmark for measuring my loyalty to her, but it’s made me more resolute in my own beliefs. Because all the spiting and snubbing of her foes has shown me how much colder I could be to the people I already didn’t like.”[end caption] -- source link
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